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Do You Sometimes Eat Because You’re Afraid You’ll “Miss Out” on Something Wonderful Otherwise?

Have you ever finished a huge meal, Thanksgiving dinner for instance, and being so stuffed you couldn’t possibly eat another bite, when suddenly someone showed up with another dessert? Did you suddenly find just a bit of space to eat a little more? That’s eating out of fear; the fear of missing out, the fear of not being part of the group (everyone else is having some and you want your share too) and it has nothing to do with hunger.

This same thing can happen with any feeling — you may feel exhausted. You had a rough day at work, a traffic jam on the way home, a flat tire, and now you have a headache. You are bone tired and want to do nothing but sleep, when suddenly the phone rings. It’s a call saying, “You’ve just won a million dollars! Can you come right down to pick it up?,” and you’re rushing out the door with your coat half fastened, you’re so excited you can hardly wait.

What happened to your headache? Probably it’s gone or is now just a faint memory. What happened to your exhaustion? It’s long gone too, replaced by a new surge of energy because your beliefs about your energy level just changed. All belief shifts happen that quickly.

The first belief shift you must make is in allowing something as simple as the EFT methods to work for you. They are helpful beyond belief, and that is why you must temporarily suspend your judgments and give it a try. Most people find they are reluctant to use these methods once they learn them simply because they don’t really want to end their overeating habits at all. If you find that is true for you, then use EFT to dissolve those issues too, and eventually you’ll be a person who can eat what they want, and maintain a healthy body weight.

We all want better health, but sometimes our inner desires are stronger than our outer. You don’t have to know why you do the things you do to solve them. Do a round of EFT first, then go ahead and eat whatever you want. You may just find you don’t want it with the same intensity as before.

I promise if you just give it a try, you’ll experience an unexpected result. For example, you’ll start to get up to move toward the kitchen, even when you’re still full from dinner because you’ve done it a thousand times before. This time though, you’ll stop and remember that first you want to do a round of EFT. Then just sit down, take a few minutes to get control of your breathing, relax, do a quick round of EFT, and see what happens.

EFT Ideas for Breaking the Fear of Missing Out Eating Habit

“Even though I want to eat ______, even though I’m not really hungry, it’s okay and I’m okay with myself.”

“Even though I can’t break this overeating habit, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.”

“Even though I can’t feel satisfied unless I’m stuffed, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though I can’t wait to eat the ice cream (or whatever is your food choice), I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though I’m afraid if I don’t have some, I’ll never get any, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

Don’t be afraid to say what you want. This is not an affirmation, and you won’t be installing the desire. If you don’t believe me, try it and see. I will say things like, “Even though I can’t wait to eat the whipped cream and I know it’s going to be delicious and I love it more than anything because it’s just the best thing in the world. Oh, how I love whipped cream.” (I might not even do the I’m okay part).

Then, recheck your SUD level (the intensity level – you did not it first, right? If not, that’s okay, but now note how much you want that treat food right now.) Is the intensity a bit less? If it’s still high, do another quick round. Go ahead. It takes less than 30 seconds. You can spare 30 seconds, can’t you?

Do you Believe You Can End Faulty Eating Habits?

Think about your belief in your ability to break this simple habit. The habit of eating when you’re not hungry. The habit of needing to feel stuffed to be satisfied. You can break the pattern, even if you don’t believe you can. It happens when you first simply stop eating a little sooner. You may still have over eaten, but your level of stuffed can be lessened, and you’ll begin to learn to know when you’ve had enough, too much, or way too much. Start by learning to leave one bite on your plate. (Even the tiniest bit counts, whatever it takes to leave a bit, it’s a start).

I know, that idea may seem radical, but it’s a great way to discover how you’ve eaten everything on your plate because it’s a habit to do so. Even if you only leave one pea, leave something on your plate. Secondly, just because there is more on the serving plate, don’t think you need to take more food. Wait a few minutes. Settle in. Get comfortable with the feeling of satisfaction. Get in touch with your hunger levels.

I remember learning to recognize my hunger levels and the shock (and dismay) when I’d realize I’d had enough but half my food was still on my plate. I learned to ask for a doggy bag, take it home and eat in the next day. I learned to sometimes fix myself less food. I learned half a sandwich is sometimes enough. I learned a piece of fruit can satisfy my wildest hunger, for now, while I wait for dinner to cook. I learned, and so will you, when you just start to pay attention.

You can still have it all, but maybe you’ll eat half now and half later.

Small shifts in your beliefs about what you can accomplish may take a bit of time, but when you do make the shift it will seem sudden and it will be permanent. Ask anyone who’s lost a lot of weight and kept it off, and they’ll tell you, “I don’t know, something just suddenly clicked.” You can experience this click too.

Start Noticing How Often You Eat Without Hunger

Start today by noticing how much food you’re being offered when you aren’t hungry. Can you take some and save it for later? Just because it’s the holiday season, it’s not an excuse to eat everything in sight because you’ll be starting to lose the weight in January. Why put it off until then?

Get more in tune with what you do day-to-day and you can let go of the fear of either suffering through another diet or gaining more weight, or losing it and then regaining it. You don’t have to choose between stuffing or starving. You can learn to eat good food, enjoy it more, and melt into the shape you truly are meant to be.

~~ Kathryn Martyn, Master NLP Practitioner, EFT counselor, author of the free e-book: Changing Beliefs, Your First Step to Permanent Weight Loss, and owner of OneMoreBite-Weightloss.com

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If you listen to self hypnosis cds on any subject you can add to the power of those hypnosis cds by implementing practical changes in your life.

You know that it only takes a small change to make a big difference. Just a small change in direction can over time lead to a big shift in many areas of a person’s life. Let me explain by using a metaphor.

A modern oil tanker is an enormous ship. It can be bigger than 10 tennis courts. A ship of that size cannot turn very quickly. The captain has to anticipate in advance a turning that the ship needs to make towards a port otherwise the ship will miss that port. So the captain calculates the direction, the heading if you like, that the ship needs to be steered. Now if that calculation is wrong by even 1 degree that ship, unless it is corrected, will miss the port but quite some distance. So even a small change in direction can make a big difference over a period of time.

Likewise in life, a small change can make a big difference over time. The great news is that a small change generally equates to a manageable change because it is small. So it is important to accept and recognise that small changes do lead towards bigger changes particularly if you make a number of those small changes.

For instance do you realise that if you made one small change each week that by the end of the year you would have made 52 changes in your life. That is quite some success and progress for any one in a year.

An example of how to put this in practice might be the person who wants to lose weight but has struggled with various diets. Rather than change everything overnight, consider the idea of changing one thing each week. The first week you might substitute a healthier and smaller meal for that unhealthy one. This change can be strengthened if you made that healthier meal always on a particular day. For example, Wednesday is your day for the healthier meal.

Then the following week you decide to go for a walk or even a run around your local park. So now you have made 2 changes in 2 weeks and it also motivates you because these enable you to feel like you are doing something positive towards controlling your weight. Then if you listen to a self hypnosis cd on self confidence when in bed on a Friday night now you have made 3 changes in 3 weeks.

The idea of all of this is that the positive changes get added gradually and not all at once. I think you would agree that 3 or 4 or 5 changes in one week might seem overwhelming and too much to do at once. This piecemeal approach in effect keeps the ball rolling and because every week you add something new it also gives you choices.

What I mean by choices is that you can then decide to stop doing one of the new changes you have made if you find it is boring or unhelpful or just too inconvenient for your lifestyle. Is you do this then all you need to do is find a different change to implement in its place and your progress towards your goal is maintained.

There is an expression which sums up the above idea very well “If you keep doing the same thing you tend to end up with the same result. If you want to change you need to do something different”.
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